My husband had a gay sex experience years ago. WTF!? Last night my husband told me that he had had sex in college with another man. One time only he said. They were both drunk at the time and at some kind of frat party. Now I can't look him in the eyes because all I can think about is him having gay sex. We have been married about 5 years and this is the first I have ever heard of him ever being interested in men. What do I do ???? |
SO WHAT???
He's not gay he's bi. And according to the Kinsey report; most men are bi. yes, MOST. So get over it.
I realized this was in my husband and I wanted him to experience it. LIfe is made to experience not to hide from.
He is still the same man you fell in love with. If anything maybe he is better because he is opening himself up to you. and what do YOU DO ?? you slap him in the face?? (figuritively)
You have the right to be upset because this is how you feel. but think of this: how can you not be able to look him in the eyes anymore? what changed ?? ans: nothing
He did it once, it's in his past, it doesn't make him any less of a man.
Geez, I screw my hubby with a strap on all the time. does that make him less than a man? no, because he is being intimate with me. and he confesses his fears and desires and his dreams to me.
so now go ahead and throw that man away. he'll be better off.
LD |
I tried gay sex!...Help? I am a 21 yr old college male who dates,has sex, and is attracted to women. Recently I went through a dry spell . I then started to watch alot of porn after awhile I got bored and came across some gay porn. After watching gay porn I became so aroused and started to make a routine of it. Once i got bored with the porn I proceeded to look for gay sex online. I met a guy who was about 28 and graduated from Cornell and was in the same frat as I am in now. After texting/talking he wanted to have sex with me I tried it and absolutely Hated it, like I went some and scrubbed my mouth and body with soap and alcohol. When I'm with a girl I never feel that way I normally have this sensation to go multiple times and it just feels so good, and on the gay porn it looked the same but IT WAS NOT. After sleeping with the guy he continued to text me.(.I ignored). Until one day I recieved an enail from him stating that he would pay me ($2500) to have sex with him. Did I mention he was loaded! I then figured since I did it for free last time y not do it fo cash so I agreed. I also begin to psych myself out thinking that maybe I did like gay sex I was just nervous the first time. When I got to the hotel he ravaged me and I felt so gross I just wanted the whole thing to be over..He told me he wante me to **** him but when I tried my penis somehow was not feeling it and would not get an erection so he tried to suck me off and that wouldnt work. And it wasnt like he was unattractive I thought he was a pretty good looking guy and he was really ripped, all of which I THOUGHT I would like. I could sense his frustration he then turned me over and began to stuff his finger up my A**. I felt very sick and scared at the same time and was shaking he kept grabbing me by the neck and telling me to relax. Then he f***** me and continued to f*** me harder and told me to take it . Thats when I decided I would NEVER have gay sex again, and that I didnt like men it just felt weird our penises rubbing together. When Im with a girl its feels so right and so good as I caress her soft body. After sex he paid me the money and told me next time to expect way more money next time and on top of that he gave me another $1000 as an Xmas gift. What should I do he is a big top level exec who works for Exxon Mobile and he told he he could help me out when I graduated college and that he would give me the world.. I've never had money and now he is offering to pay for my school and put me in a nice condo downtown. and even though I hated the thought of being with him I love the finally having nice things and lots of money I'm confused.. Am I gay? . Will I be able to go back to having sex with women after knowing what I've done in the back of my head. Y is it I get off to porn and when it comes to sex and being intimate with a man I hate it help!! |
| it seems like you might have your mind made up already. u know ur not gay, but for the love of money ur willing to do it. ethically it's not right, but in ur case money trumps ethics. i know what it can b like to not have money and then come into it, it is very addictive. if u can stand what u r doing and u urself can b fine with it, to hell with what other people think. best of luck to u. |
In a Fraternity house are there a lot of gay guys? when I look up frat houses to join on the internet and such all that comes up are pictures of guys having gay sex. is this what it is mostly like? are there a lot of gay guys and do they stay naked a lot? |
| No, just lots of gay sex. |
While partying with friends that don't know you're gay, are you skilled at dancing with the opposite sex? Nowadays, at parties and clubs, dancing has become basically having sex while standing up. Last night I went to a frat with friends who don't know I am gay, and they kept pressuring me to dance with a girl because I am single. A couple girls came up to me, but I wasn't making the moves. Finally I decided to just go for it. It was awkward as hell, grabbing a girls hip and grinding, especially since I lack rhythm. I am the uber white guy. After it a while it was fun, especially after several drinks.
Have you ever been in this type of situation? Are you able to get a dance partner of the opposite sex with no problem? How does it feel to basically having sex while clothed and standing up with the gender you consider as neither here nor there?
I mean, this one girl just bent over and was rubbing her butt all over me. It was ironically comical, but I enjoyed myself, until my friend puked and we skedaddled before the frat brothers saw. |
| To be honest the last time that happened to me was in High school! I went to a party at school, I was one of the organizers of the event but I was not much of a party person. So I was standing in the corner drinking my soda and my coach gets this girl with a huge butt to come grind on me! I was totally paralyzed and had no clue what to do, so I just stood there until she got frustrated and left. lol. After that, it never happened again, and I stopped going to parties like that. lol. |
Had sex with a dude, does this mean I'm gay now or just Bi? So last weekend I went to my frat's party (Sig Epp muthafukas!!!) and partied my a$$ of. I just took like thirteen shots of da Clear and then took some EX (yeah). I then awoke in my room and looked to my left expecting to see some chick in my bed (or more than 1) instead I saw my frat brother Kieth curled up next to me NAKED! I freaked out and got outta the bed and woke him up. I asked him what the hell happened and he said that he was a little tipsy and we hooked up (didn't know he was gay, but with a name like keith i shoulda known haha) so now I don't know if I'm technically Gay! Help! |
Do you find yourself having fantasies about or being attracted to members of the same sex when you are not under the influence of drugs and alcohol? If the answer is definately no then you are not gay or bi, you were drunk and high. If the answer is maybe sometimes but you still like girls, then it is possible you could be bi and it would be up to you on whether you want to explore that area of your sexuality. If the answer is yes, all the time and you don't really like girls the same way... Well then and only then are you truly gay.
Hope it helps |
I want to join this gay fraternity on campus? but one of the rules is no sex with the other frat guys
so then whats the point of joining? |
| i've seen this same question at least a dozen times... TRY to limit yourself to the thousands of guys that don't live in the house... good grief... |
Do fraternity hazing really do all those gay things? Idk if this was just a rumor or true or not, but do frat guys really as part of their hazing or initiation make the new comer preform in oral sex, anal, circle jerks those kinds of things...I don't understand why??? |
| That would be a really extreme hazing ritual if it were true. My friends who joined and frat did have to endure some hazing rituals but they weren't that sexual in nature. They did have to wear tighty whities for some part of the hazing but they never had to do anything sexual to another guy. |
Should i join this gay fraternity? a new gay fraternity was just made on campus. but one of the rules is no sex with the other frat brothers
so then whats the point of joining? |
| Join and then have secret sex! It makes it so much better! |
Lesbians vs gay world fake vs. real? Hi,
I was just curious about this.( don't erase..please read it all..it is a good question)
I know in the gay/bi male world that alot of guys are into being "gay" for sex/companionship. just using the guy as a substitute for a girl.
I know alot of girls say they are now lesbians or bi because it is the cool things to do or say or be.
Yet it is pretty easy to spot a 'wannabee" in the male world...they usually are the guys that really don't wish to be affectionate with another guy/don't want to kiss/have any personal contact.
And if they do kiss..you can feel that they really aren't into it..
So I wondered how does this work in the girl world...obviously most girls only have to "kiss" in public to show others that they are now in the "club"...So my lesbian friends...can you tell if a girl is faking? are their obvious signs/symbols/vibes that a straight girl give off differently.
And if kissing/being affectionate in public is a girls' way of faking being bi/lesbian....how do you tell the real deal?
I guess my question boils down to the fact that wannabee gay guys don't like personal contact/touching/holding hands/kissing another guy in the bedroom...moreor less in public!!!!...
The are merely looking for the sexual act/companionship..
Yet wannabee bi/lesbians girls get a thrill out of public displays of girl/girl affection...they like the attention/stares they get from holding hands in public/kissing one another at a frat party or around a bunch of guys at a bar. Being a lesbian/bi is now chic/cool/sexy and fing hotttttt
So as a lesbian woman/bi woman...how do you tell who is the real deal?...How do you know who is real or fake when you meet them on the dance floor? |
This is a really good question. I used to wonder the same thing with my now ex-girlfriend who turned out to be straight.
Here's how I could tell: She made a joke out of the whole thing. She was never serious about us, or when we kissed, or anything.
If you can see compassion and chemistry when the two girls are together, it's the real deal. If she seems to be playing around or not taking it seriously, then she's a fake. |
Should I stick my rod of pleasure into a certain woman's holy heaven? This is more of a moral question, but I know the experts on this are in the Men's Health section!
A woman I know(lets call her Samantha) is a lesbian. I found out because she was looking at my Playboy. Sadly, she stole it from me, and I had to retrieve it because the Fraternity I am part of has a collection of every single Playboy every made, and we just couldn't lose one of them because I screwed up. Samantha and I made a deal(almost forced on me);since she hasn't been able to ever have a lesbian partner, I either had to find a girlfriend for her, or have lesbian like sex with her. The frat brothers pressured me into the sex, because they think I can seduce her and make her have straight sex. When the deal is done, I get the Playboy back for our collection. Its an issue with Carmen Electra in it, so its IMPORTANT!
But I'm thinking of bailing out of the sex, because its lesbian like. She said there'll be a strap-on involved, a leather whip with a small dildo at the end of it, and I can't stick my rod in her. I have to use the strap-on on her, then she uses it on me!
So to you guys, should I do it? Or should I convince the gay frat brother to do it? He'll be more open to this kind of stuff. |
The question is Do you want to have this kind of sex with her?
If yes then go for it if no then don't.
Don't allow others to have influence over your sex life its kinda lame and sad that these people need the social reinforcement of controlling others to 'belong' and thus enforcing that 'belonging' . |